Monday night I had the family over for dinner- it was Eid night. The thing is I had invited my mom, dad and brother for supper anyway, so when sister in law said they were starting a new id tradition IE having turns annually too host eid dinner I thought why not kill to birds with one stone – have the in laws as ell as My family for dinner. I prepared everything in advance – my menu was mushroom steak, savoury pasta and noodle rice, grilled peri peri prawns and for desert I made something called passion fruit surprise…
everything went well until sister in law says that from next year they would not be having turns for eid dinner because it was ‘too hectic”. Just imagine…. now that I had my turn they found it too hectic… because they were too full… and too tired…. Blimey… after I had done all the work… well anyway…its over . I enjoyed the planning and the cooking so its actually there loss.
Did I mention that whenever dh’s family are over he always pretends to be this big macho man… by trying to act smarter and better than me … he always seems to find fault in everything I do…but I found the remedy for that in that I don’t keep quite anymore – its tit for tat now… I am not keeping quiet anymore… no more Mrs Nice girl…now I am not saying that I am rude I am just more in control and more assertive and it feels so good.
My father n law was discharged on Sunday morning – just in time to spend Eid with the family. The doctor told us that he has been experiencing repeated strokes and as a result the brain tissue on the right side of his brain might never heal (implying that some of the tissue is dead) and that he may never recover totally from the stroke… its really sad and diufficult to accept.. he has now become almost totally incontinent… its been difficult to take care of him at home now. My mom in law seems to be taking strain. It seems to be a no win situation. The dr even mentioned that we may have to admit him into a nursing hoe- in the muslim community this is un heard of… we usually try to take care of our own… its really difficult to imagine what his future will hold.