All posts for the month June, 2012

on Fertility or rather Infertility

Published June 29, 2012 by sweetashoney

This is a beautiful excerpt from a blog on infertility.

somehow  it sums up the emotions of someone who is struggling with infertility very very appropriately.

A letter to my fertile friends from the blog by



Just another weblog


Hope I don’t sound bitter but here is a letter I will probably never send….

Dear fertile friends,


Do you believe cancer exists? Do you believe HIV to be a real health issue? Pneumonia? Cholestrol? Appendicitis? If you were facing any of these issues do you believe that they would disappear if you ignored them and simply tried to relax?

No? Obviously not- they are a function of your body “misfiring” biologically and only good medical treatment can assist, right?

So what is it about blocked fallopian tubes, fibroids, poor egg quality or sperm motility that makes you think that infertility is any different?

I am not infertile because I want a baby too much. I am not infertile because I can’t switch off and I just need to relax . I am probably not better off for not having a child. The reason that a blessing of a child has not been bestowed upon me is not that I would be a bad parent- if children were born only into perfect families to perfect parents babies would not be abandoned in bins or sold off to prostitution.

I know you mean well, but your endeavours to sympathise or help sometime do more harm than good, so forgive me for writing so candidly but I though you should know what helps and what doesn’t…..

I am sensitive. Think before you speak.

Your child is not my child. Sending me pictures of every insignificant moment in your child’s life does not fill a void in me and forgive me but I do not find them as cute or interesting as you do. I only see reminders of the emptiness in my life that I am trying to ignore. I know your child is your life but it doesn’t have to be the sole topic of conversation everytime we meet.

Tell me that you are there to listen when I need you, but don’t force me to talk when I don’t want to.

You will never understand what I have been through. Don’t offer advice- I am already seeing an expert. Just show you care by being sensitive and a source of positive energy in my life.

I don’t do baby showers. Deal with it. This also goes for 1 and 2 year old birthday parties. This does not mean that I am not happy for you, it just means that it hurts me. Simple as that.

I am sometimes on hormonal medication that may turn me into a hermit, bitch from hell or emotional mess. I am truly sorry about this and thank you for bearing with me.


Don’t make jokes about my situation, don’t tell me how expensive/ badly behaved your children are. I know how much you love them. It just makes me feel like you are pitying me.

Don’t pity me- I have proven how strong I am. Be strong with me.

Visit me in hospital. Wish me the best. Say that you’ll pray for me. That’s all you need to do…..

January 5, 2012 Posted by mmccif |




Another Poem : The Journey

Published June 28, 2012 by sweetashoney

I feel His warmth envelop me,

Streams of pearly, white gold,

Holding me,


My dreams fulfilled,

My heart glows.

My soul complete,

Its radiance flows.

I feel safe.

The embrace engulfs me

Elevates me

Above the rest,

My soul retires.

I peer down,


I have overcome.

With His help,I have arrived.


Published June 27, 2012 by sweetashoney

Theres an emptiness inside

that won’t go away

It’s cold and sore.

It hurts now,

even more.

I have tasted many tears.

Saltier and saltier.

Where does it come from?


I wish someone would hear me

and take the emptiness all away,


My words are all in vain,

as the emptiness will be back again and again.

Hope is all I have.

No means of escape

except for this writing.

Each night I pray

for no hurt,

no pain,

No anger,

no bitterness

or jealousy,

But just pleasant dreams to see.

How long they will last,

I don’t know.

Is that how its all supposed to go?

Salt, tears, hurt, dreams

and Smiles,

for as long as we breathe.

More Poetry

Published June 26, 2012 by sweetashoney


a tiny flicker illuminates


as the mist slowly dissipates


a rosy blush

a soul becomes whole

like its meant to

Destiny smiles


Published June 25, 2012 by sweetashoney

Back when I was feeling inspired I used to often sit down and write verses of poetry.  Lately though I just feel as If I am going on with life just to get through it.  I suppose we all have our up and down days.

Here I have decided to post a poem I wrote.


I dream dreams of you

Magical, mystical dreams.

Dreams so secret,

so beautiful.

We would do silly things,

wonderful things.

They were special things to Me and You.

I long to see your face,

I long to hear you whisper my name.

I want to touch your face,

Stare into those eyes.

Drown in your kisses.

If I were brave enough,

I wonder if these dreams would come true

.But now I see you walk away.

On a Guilt Trip

Published June 16, 2012 by sweetashoney

Ok guys I feel horribly guilty!!
I went to the health shop for some much needed vitamins as – have an awful cold. On my way out the mall I stopped by clicks and I splurged…. I am kinda excited but I also feel kinda guilty…….
I bought Maybelline Falsies Mascara (who doesn’t want gorgeous long lashes), Revlon moisturising eye concealer, Yardley Radiant Glo (luminiser) and Eucerin Dermatoclean cleansing Gel….I am so bored with Dermalogica that I have been using for a long long time (2 years to be exact).
I am so excited to try them all out but I also have a nagging twinge of buyers remorse… But that will pass!!! Nothing beats the High you get from shopping specifically makeup shopping!!!!

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Classes for Women….

Published June 14, 2012 by sweetashoney
  • Training courses are now available for women on the following subjects:Topic 1. Silence, the Final Frontier: Where No Woman Has Gone BeforeTopic 2. The Undiscovered Side of Banking: Making DepositsTopic 3. Parties: Going Without New OutfitsTopic 4. Bathroom Etiquette: Men Need Space in the Bathroom Cabinet TooTopic 5. Communication Skills I: Tears – The Last Resort, not the FirstTopic 6. Communication Skills II: Getting What you Want Without NaggingTopic 7. Driving a Car Safely: A Skill You CAN AcquireTopic 8. Telephone Skills: How to Hang UpTopic 9. Classic Footwear: Wearing Shoes You Already HaveTopic 10. Oil and Petrol: Your Car Needs BothNEW EVENING CLASSES FOR MEN!!! ALL ARE WELCOME! OPEN TO MEN ONLY!Note: due to the complexity and level of difficulty of their contents, each course will accept a maximum of eight participants each.Topic 1. How to fill ice-cube trays. Step by step with slide presentation.Topic 2. Toilet paper rolls: do they grow on the holders? Round-table discussion.Topic 3. Differences between the laundry basket and the floor. Pictures and explanatory graphics.Topic 4. Learning how to find things, starting with looking in the right place instead of turning the house upside down while screaming. Open forum.Topic 5. Health watch: bringing her flowers is not harmful to your health. Audios and graphics.Topic 6. Real men ask for directions when lost. Real-life testimonials.Topic 7. Is it genetically impossible to sit quietly as she parallel parks? Driving simulation.Topic 8. Learning to live: differences between mother and wife. Online class and role playing.Topic 9. How to be the ideal shopping partner. Relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.Topic 10. How to fight cerebral atrophy: remembering important dates and calling when you’re going to be late. Cerebral shock therapy sessions.
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